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  • Writer: Gregrey Majors
    Gregrey Majors
  • 17 minutes ago
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I’ve really been wrestling with a blog for this week. Over the past few months, I have joined four different Facebook awareness groups in an effort to have our message reach more people. There are over 135,000 within just those four groups, and one of the most difficult realities of being a member is seeing all of the new names and faces that become members every week. Not the ones that have been wrestling with suicide in some form or another for months or years, but for the people that have just become a victim of suicide through their own hand or the hands of someone close to them.   

I’ve really been wrestling with a blog for this week. Over the past few months, I have joined four different Facebook awareness groups in an effort to have our message reach more people. There are over 135,000 within just those four groups, and one of the most difficult realities of being a member is seeing all of the new names and faces that become members every week. Not the ones that have been wrestling with suicide in some form or another for months or years, but for the people that have just become a victim of suicide through their own hand or the hands of someone close to them.   

 


So, after tossing around several ideas for this week’s blog, with nothing really sticking with me, I woke up to a God Wink. When I opened my computer the first thing that popped up was Ronnie Dunn, from Brooks and Dunn, doing a solo of the Sugarland hit called “Stay”. So that clinched what today’s blog is all about, in the words of the song, why don’t you stay? 

SO, STAY

So, after tossing around several ideas for this week’s blog, with nothing really sticking with me, I woke up to a God Wink. When I opened my computer the first thing that popped up was Ronnie Dunn, from Brooks and Dunn, doing a solo of the Sugarland hit called “Stay”. So that clinched what today’s blog is all about, in the words of the song, why don’t you stay? 

 

It's Hard

I know how hard this is. You wouldn’t believe how many posts and blogs I write about suicide awareness and its impact, with tears in my eyes. Not only tears for myself or my brother, but tears for all those others I now see becoming victims of suicide. After dealing with suicidal thoughts for almost six decades now and knowing I will never go through with it, the hardest part for me now is the depression that comes with it.

 


Recently, I have found that the primary cause of my depression stems directly from talking to myself. Within my head, the plan is to kill myself by walking across the street to the back parking lot of a funeral home that we can see from my driveway and shooting myself in the heart after calling the police to let them know where I will be. So, here’s the silly part of that depression. I know for a fact, before and after the plan runs through my head that there is no way I would be able to put my loved ones through a suicide. The real depressing thought is, why in the hell does that thought and plan ever materialize? Why, do I think like that in the first place?  

Depression

Recently, I have found that the primary cause of my depression stems directly from talking to myself. Within my head, the plan is to kill myself by walking across the street to the back parking lot of a funeral home that we can see from my driveway and shooting myself in the heart after calling the police to let them know where I will be. So, here’s the silly part of that depression. I know for a fact, before and after the plan runs through my head that there is no way I would be able to put my loved ones through a suicide. The real depressing thought is, why in the hell does that thought and plan ever materialize? Why, do I think like that in the first place?  

 


My Demons

It is easy to trace the root source of my demons. They started on August 18, 1968, with the violent suicidal death of my brother, the closest person in my life. Knowing where the demons started doesn’t make them less frightening or easier to deal with. But I have found that my efforts of spreading suicide awareness and trying to make a difference in other’s world is helping me to face my own issues. Surrounding myself with very supportive people that also spend their days trying to help others is the best feeling I have ever found.

 


I don’t know the root cause of your demons, but I do know that you can beat them. Get involved, preferably in your church, whatever it is, get involved with others. I have found like-minded groups are the best source of relief for me. Knowing at the end of each day that I have done everything within my power to reach others that are dealing with similar problems. Your demons may have nothing to do with suicide; they could be the result of abuse or neglect both to you and/or from you. Some of my toughest demons are the ones I created myself, including my own struggles with drug and alcohol abuse.

Your Demons

I don’t know the root cause of your demons, but I do know that you can beat them. Get involved, preferably in your church, whatever it is, get involved with others. I have found like-minded groups are the best source of relief for me. Knowing at the end of each day that I have done everything within my power to reach others that are dealing with similar problems. Your demons may have nothing to do with suicide; they could be the result of abuse or neglect both to you and/or from you. Some of my toughest demons are the ones I created myself, including my own struggles with drug and alcohol abuse.

 


Stay connected to family and true friends. Stay connected to church. Stay connected to social groups, and I don’t mean on social media. I mean truly connected in person.  And stay away from things that you know are triggers for you, especially if those triggers are mind altering drugs or alcohol. Stay grounded in who you are. Know your personal limitations, and as long as pushing them doesn’t place an undue burden on you, reach for them whenever you can. In the end, your only limits are the ones you set. Push past them with intention, purpose, and courage. Go for it!!!

So, Why Don’t You Stay?

Stay connected to family and true friends. Stay connected to church. Stay connected to social groups, and I don’t mean on social media. I mean truly connected in person. 


And stay away from things that you know are triggers for you, especially if those triggers are mind altering drugs or alcohol. Stay grounded in who you are. Know your personal limitations, and as long as pushing them doesn’t place an undue burden on you, reach for them whenever you can.


In the end, your only limits are the ones you set. Push past them with intention, purpose, and courage.


Go for it!!!

 


THE SIMPLE TRUTH, WHEN IT COMES TO SUICIDE, TALKING SAVES LIVES!!


**Reach out to me at any time. 

I am not only willing, but I also look forward to taking a share of your pain. Email: David@bondedabrotherslove.com. You will get a caring same day response.


Nothing scripted.   

You are not alone, and you matter.



If you or someone you love or know is in a dark place, please know you’re not alone and there is help available. Reaching out is a sign of strength, not weakness. There are people ready to listen, ready to walk with you, and ready to help.

If You’re Struggling

If you or someone you love or know is in a dark place, please know you’re not alone and there is help available. Reaching out is a sign of strength, not weakness. There are people ready to listen, ready to walk with you, and ready to help.


Immediate assistance is available:


National Suicide & Crisis Lifeline  

📞 988


Veterans Crisis Line  

📞 1-800-273-8255 (Press 1) | 📱 Text 838255


Survivor Support / Crisis Group  

🌐 https://www.crisishotline.org  📞 832-416-1177

 


💡 If you know someone who needs to hear that they are not alone, share this story. Together, we can create echoes of hope that outlast the pain.


Bonded: A Brother’s Love — One Bullet. A Thousand Echoes.This book is more than my story. It is a voice for every family devastated by suicide and a lifeline for those standing at the edge of despair. My hope is that it reaches the one who needs it most. If even one person chooses life because of it, then every tear and every word will have been worth it. 📖 Order your copy today : https://tinyurl.com/3h87mjy6 and join me in breaking the silence. Together we can spread hope, honor the lost, and change the future.

For more than five decades, I carried this story in silence. Silence nearly broke me, but telling it is what keeps hope alive.


Bonded: A Brother’s Love : One Bullet. A Thousand Echoes my hope is that it offers understanding, connection, and even a reason to hold on when life feels unbearable.



📖 Order your copy today and join me in breaking the silence. Together we can spread hope, honor the lost, and change the future.


For more than five decades, I carried this story in silence. Silence nearly broke me, but telling it is what keeps hope alive. Bonded: A Brother’s Love : One Bullet. A Thousand Echoes my hope is that it offers understanding, connection, and even a reason to hold on when life feels unbearable. 📖 Order your copy today and join me in breaking the silence. Together we can spread hope, honor the lost, and change the future.

 
 
 

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